On Dec 21, 2008, I put a ring on her finger, but we didn't set a wedding date right away. In a form of protest for marriage equality, we agreed it would be unfair to receive the tax benefits of being married when same-sex couples could not. We were thrilled when New York State legalized same-sex marriage, but a same-sex couple still wouldn't receive tax benefits until their marriage is recognized by federal law. However, we now feel that with the momentum for marriage equality moving in the right direction, and being unable to afford our protest any longer, it is time to make our union official.
On Dec 21, 2011, at 4:00 PM, Jamie and I will be married by a Justice of the Peace at city hall in a very informal ceremony attended only by our immediate, local family.